It is proven time and again that if people disrupt the natural course of life disaster follows. Look around you, chaos all over—global warming, AIDS, earthquake, calamities…an endless stream of human strife made possible by the humans itself in their futile attempt to modify what was originally designed for them.

Take for example the idea of creating a human life. For a large number of people around the globe conceiving a baby nowadays does not entail the accountability to build a safe environment in which life can flourish. Newly weds and neo parents somehow think that everything is all right as they have a child and thinks that the world around them will definitely fall into place just like the movies. But the shoddiest of all things is movies ain’t the real thing and it does not distinguish the value these new parents as being defective.

I overheard one Pastor in one of his sermon said that “it is always a good thing when a child is born.” Sorry to burst your bubble Mr. Pastor but a child being born to a family in a heap of garbage in the arms of his parents without the ability to feed a child is a child condemned either to die or to become a dependent of the state. A child who grows up in a home where the word “loving relationship” is synonymous to beating and insulting is condemned to countless mental and psychological dysfunction and disturbance.

The problem has gone haywire, yet the solution is so simple that people doesn’t see it right under their nose. Most people see things habitually as they expect that the world is responsible for them and not the other way around. They never see things such as they themselves is the one and only responsible for their inadequacy. Thus people will have children no matter what the consequences may be.

The irony says it all: people who do not have the ability to feed themselves brought a child in this world to feed.

Our present dispensation of the law protects the women and children against the abandonment of the father. Safety measures such as the women have the right to demand alimonies and support from a divorce or child support after the failed marriage. Sure thing justice wave and smiles to those oppressed mother and child. But not exactly. The justice system in its impartiality failed to see the most important part other than alimony.

Justice may have put a penalty to the father by letting him pay certain amount for his mistake for the rest of his life. That’s sweet as many mothers can’t put food on the table while nursing a baby. We know that it is the most righteous thing to do as the pity and responsiveness goes well up to the mother and child. Our heart is always inclined to those oppressed, browbeaten and exploited ones.

My point is again, getting back to the natural course of human existence. If the baby are being used as a bargaining chip in order for the father to fulfill his financial obligation and not to accomplish his nurturing capacity—that’s where the problem starts. Fulfillment of responsibilities should not come from legal pressures; instead it should be by love. If not possible it should be none at all. The dysfunctionality of the family always came from the situation wherein a child have a father living in a distant place with his “other” family and sees him when its time to hand some money. The responsibility should also be extended to the mother in the first place, that if you can’t find a loving partner who would nurture and stick around with you and be at your side to raise the baby—you are not allowed to have a child.

The logic is simple. Please let us not fill this world with children who wears oversized shirt in an undersized emotion hoping to find them a role in a reality TV show somewhere in the limbo of imaginative loveless world. Having children is easy but raising them up to be a responsible one in a functional family is one heck of a job.

I know a woman who got married as mail-order-bride. Then there’s this girl who punch a hole in her boyfriend’s condom to get pregnant and force the guy to marry her. I happen to witness a mother who sold her baby girl to a pedophile. The recent news shows a dead 5 year old kid covered in black and blue right in his bedroom after his step father is through with him.

That is I think because human alter what was once God has given him. Getting married because you love somebody--having a child because you love each other and agree to raise a child responsively. All things that are off track are definitely bound to crash.

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A simple man tells how his booking an air ticket for his father, his first flight, brought emotions and made him realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Lufthansa.

The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen.

He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.

As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him.

When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me.

But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life.

As a child how many dreams our parents have made come true. Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for football, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have satisfied to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes?

Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?

Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young, it is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments.

Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children,the same attention and same care need to be given to our parents and elders.

Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes. Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.

Take care of your parents.